As the holiday season approaches, many people prepare to travel to visit family and host family gatherings.
Especially for those hosting an endless list of errands and preparations, the season can be as much fun as it is stressful.
One woman revealed that she ultimately canceled the festivities because she felt overwhelmed and unprepared for a large Christmas gathering at her home.
A pregnant woman canceled her husband’s family Christmas party without discussing it.
When the woman’s husband discovered she canceled the gathering without her knowledge, he called her behavior “absurdly horrible” and demanded a handwritten apology.
She claims she canceled the Christmas party because her husband didn’t let her know the details of the get-together, which meant they didn’t have enough time to prepare for so many guests.
Eventually re-used to apologize, she posted a story on the subreddit “r/AmItheA–hole” (AITA) saying she was wrong for refusing to apologize to her husband after canceling their Christmas get-together. I asked him if he was
A 32-year-old started posting by revealing that she works full-time, while her 39-year-old husband works night shifts three times a week.
They have a two-year-old son and the woman is also six months pregnant.
The woman and her husband had never hosted a Christmas party before and it proved to be more difficult than the woman expected.
“My husband has a big family, and every Christmas they would gather at his father’s house,” she wrote.
Sadly, her father-in-law passed away a year ago, so the woman’s husband decided to host a family gathering at his home this Christmas.
“Unbeknownst to me, he sent out invitations for a five-day Christmas celebration to all family members, about 26 in total,” the woman wrote.
The overwhelmed woman confronted her husband, who had no problem with this.
“After my father’s death, he is the ‘head’ of the family, and all major family events are held in our house, in front of him, so I wouldn’t be surprised, he said, and get used to it.” I got
The woman was frustrated that her husband did not inform her about the family plan because she had to work, manage the house and take care of her son.
“He said it would work out if I took time off from work, but that would mean more work later on and my maternity leave would be taken away,” the woman wrote.
She insisted that her husband cancel the invitation he had sent to the family, to which he replied, “About my corpse.”
The woman eventually decided to take matters into her own hands, “resulting in mass texting to everyone who received an invitation explaining that we will not be having Christmas this year.” writing.
When her husband discovered the news, the woman claimed he was “going out,” explaining:[He] I said I broke promises to his family and made him look small and unauthoritative. ”
“I replied in a very stern tone that I had not signed up to host a celebration and accommodate 26 people while I was pregnant, caring for an infant, and working.
The woman’s husband then accused her of “disrespecting” him and his late father and demanded a handwritten apology.
When the woman refused to apologize, her mother-in-law gave her a “tough talk” about how she crossed the line by controlling her husband’s decisions regarding the family.
Redditors supported the women’s decision.
“OP [original poster]if you want to host a Christmas celebration, tell him you have the time and the spoon to do it,” one user commented.
“Or if he told you to do it instead of asking you first, you could spend Christmas with your family, right? I’m going to be with my family.”
Another user claimed, “He had a reason and sent those invitations without her knowledge. He knew she would object.”
“He had already sent out the invitations and said he worked full-time to support his family, looked after an infant, and, while in the third trimester of her pregnancy, spent five days against her will with 26 gorgeous women. I made a bet that we would be holding an event.Pregnant.”
A third user wrote, “OP works full time, has a toddler, is pregnant, and her husband expects her to entertain a house full of people for five days without any help.” Do you? Yeah, no.”
Megan Quinn is a writer for YourTango, covering entertainment and news, self, love and relationships.